11 Powerful Ways to Protect Your Sensitivity

11 Powerful Ways to Protect Your Sensitivity

11 Powerful Ways to Protect Your Sensitivity

Sensitive Soul, 

If you identify as sensitive, whether you’re introverted, extroverted or somewhere in between, your sensitivity is your foundation. Or perhaps it’s your softly sculpted flowery edge. Either way, you carry it with you, and it either guides or derails you.  

Sensitivity is so beautiful, yet so fragile and misunderstood. We spend so much of our lives resenting it, fighting it, trying to smother it down, instead of nourishing it. And the more we resent and dismiss it, the more it sabotages us. 

Sensitivity is a soft trait, with a powerful backlash if it’s not honored. 

I’ve always been very sensitive. I pick up on other people’s feelings, emotions, and energies very quickly. I absorb them. I feel them internally. And so my reactions to people can be strong. Strong but patient, sometimes too patient, sometimes not patient enough. 

There are so many ways I didn’t honor my sensitivity throughout my life. Ways I’ve been learning to correct. I thought I’d share some lessons here, for your own sensitive self… 

11 Powerful Ways to Protect Your Sensitivity… 

1. Flex Your Sensitive Fierceness.  

The funny thing about sensitive people is that they are some of the strongest people out there. They’re the ones you want around if you’re in a bind, if disaster strikes, if all hell breaks lose, if tragedy hits you. Sensitivity is often labeled as a weakness but in reality it cultivates a strength most people don’t ever experience. We’re used to feeling more so we can often simply handle more, when push comes to shove.  

Being stuck in our own heads sometimes gets in the way making us feel weak, but put us in a situation that gets us out of our head, and quite frankly, we’re unstoppable. 

Take a person who outwardly appears “tough” and put them in a sticky situation and you may find them running selfishly for the hills, trembling the entire way, leaving everyone behind. It’s the sensitive soul who’ll be there to pick up all the pieces with focus and determination.  

All the years we’ve spent feeling, absorbing, and internalizing, builds up a thick foundation of bravery and strength, despite a sometimes soft exterior.

Honor that foundation, tap into it, explore the ways it works in your favor.  

2. Know and Respect Your Perceived “Limitations.”

There are many areas where you’ll feel limited as a sensitive person. Certain energies won’t jive with you. Some situations will overwhelm you. Don’t beat yourself up over them, respect them, create space around them. Give yourself the room you need to breathe, to flourish.  

Here are some things that overwhelm me that I make conscious efforts to fix, avoid or reduce my time with: an overflowing inbox, too much time on Facebook (lately I prefer Instagram, feels more intimate), too many open windows on my computer, people who consistently put others down (even if they’re joking), people who only talk about themselves, letting my snail mail stack up for a month (did this for years! now I check it as it comes in), too much clutter in my home (I am constantly de-cluttering lately), too many social outings in one week, etc. 

I used to ignore the effect these things had on me. I just tried to deal with them because otherwise it must mean I’m weak, I’m “too sensitive”, I’m being selfish, etc. But no, I’m stronger and happier now that my inbox consistently has less than 35 emails in it and now that I no longer hang around people who love insulting others.     

My limitations teach me things, so I respect them, and it makes life feel better everyday and far less overwhelming. 

3. Treasure Your Radical Intuition.

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Your sensitivity likely makes you extremely intuitive – radically so, I’d say. Sometimes we’re so wrapped up in dismissing our sensitivity that we shove our intuition aside in the process. Don’t, it’s an amazing thing to be so in tuned with the world around you. 

People who follow their intuition the most, without letting themselves get in their own way, seem to achieve endlessly. Your intuition is your guide, it’s your compass, it’s incredibly accurate, but it will go haywire if you surround it with negative self-deprecating mental magnets (trust me, I know!). 

When you feel your intuition pointing you in a certain direction, stop and listen. Pay attention and honor it. As your mental magnets start attacking, stop yourself and focus only on the intuition. Let it guide you. 

4. Take Care of Your Health. 

If you’re sensitive, it’s likely not just mental, it’s physical as well. I’ve been meeting endless sensitive women lately and they have all experienced health issues throughout their life of some sort or another. Taking care of your health helps to take care of your mind. 

I’m not perfect and pregnancy has definitely affected my healthy eating habits way more than I’d like to admit – sugar and carbs call to me like never before in my life! And I can see the affect they have on me, on my mood and my energy level – or is that just the pregnancy, hard to tell! Either way, I’m eager to get back to the old me!

Pre-pregnancy, healthy eating and exercising was simply my way of life. There was no dieting, no starving, no resisting, just simply flourishing with healthy food. I’d get some weird remarks from people about my diet and I’m often made fun of at group gatherings, but it’s okay! I know what I need to thrive so there’s no apologizing. Instead I celebrate it and try my best to live by example. Now if only I could get my pregnant self to get more on board 😉 

Learn how food and exercise affect you. Prioritizing your health helps you thrive in every other area of your life. 

5. Accept that It’s Okay to Want to Please Others.

Sensitive people often put the needs of others before themselves. We want to please, bring joy, satisfy. I used to view this as a weakness, a flaw. But I realize now that this trait in and of itself isn’t the flaw, it’s when we take it too far that it becomes detrimental to our well-being. 

But in and of itself, there’s a joy in pleasing others. It makes us hard workers, thorough, detail oriented, conscientious, caring, easy to be around, helpful, and more.  

If we disconnect from that too strongly, we lose something that brings a deep joy and sense of accomplishment. The trick is to combine our need to please with completely honoring ourselves and what we want out of life. It’s not pleasing just to please. It’s pleasing with purpose, with intention, with self-awareness and self-love. It’s about finding a please-others-please-self balance.

6. Practice Putting Yourself First.

While it’s okay to find the joy in pleasing others, if you revolve your whole life around it you’ll be living according to other people’s agendas, and your priorities will get lost in the shuffle.

Practice putting yourself first. State your opinion. Put your foot down when you need to. Choose the restaurant you want to go to. Tell people “no” so you don’t overextend yourself.

You should always be your first priority. You’ll take care of others more effectively if your needs are being met.     

7. Pay Attention to Your Environment.

A chaotic environment for a sensitive person is like living a waking nightmare. That chaos could be in the physical aspects of your environment or the mental/emotional energies of those around you.

To me, this may be the most important way you can protect yourself. If you’re surrounded by ugly energy for extended periods of time (nasty coworkers, constantly grumpy family members, messy cluttered homes), it’s gonna be detrimental on your energy, happiness, sense of peace and overall well-being. Fix it. It’s imperative. It’s vital. You will absorb that energy more than most.  

Sometimes I think about the reasons I consider myself so happily married. And one of the main reasons (out of many, darling <3) is the unbelievable peacefulness of my husband’s personality, and of the home we’ve created together. It’s not our ideal home, it’s too small, but it’s calm and peaceful, always. My husband may be an aggressive attorney at work, and he can certainly keep me debating and on my toes, but our relationship and home are always peaceful. Even our bickering feels peaceful.

That’s not something I will ever take for granted and it’s no accident. I needed that so I followed my intuition to a man who could give me that.

Create peaceful environments for yourself and limit the time you spend in harsh environments.  

8. Be Selective with the People You Let Into Your Mental Space.

Similar to #7 above, it’s so important to be careful with who you let into your life. I used to not discriminate, at least not enough. I have an extremely high tolerance for annoying and selfish personalities. I spent years just keeping my mouth shut and subjecting myself to any personality that came my way and wanted to be in my space.

It’s taken a lot of self-honoring practices to learn that I can choose who I let in my life. And I find that the more that I choose, the more my life fills with wonderful, positive, happy, encouraging, nourishing, just plain lovely people. 

You only have a limited amount of space in your life. Make sure you leave that space open for those who truly lift you up. Fill up your cup with negative energies and there’s simply no room left for others to jump in. 

9. Treasure the Lessons Your Past Has Taught You.

Sensitive people often spend so much time caught up in the ways their sensitivity has held them back in the past. Understand that your past wasn’t always in your control. You were subject to the opinions, agendas, and preconceived notions of those around you. People weren’t taught to nourish sensitivity, they were taught to “toughen up”, “grow a backbone”, “be like everyone else”, “fit in”, etc. 

A lot of those lessons were simply just WRONG. And so we spent much of our lives fighting against our very natures. The very thing we should have been nourishing, we were condemning. And so we swam upstream and learned to resent the tide. 

The tide was going in the right direction all along, you just needed to learn to swim with it not against it.  Now that you know that, forgive your past. Learn from it. It’s not a reflection of your future, if you don’t let it be. It’s just shown you how important it is to swim with the tide.

10. Be Bold.   

Similar to #1 above, being sensitive does not mean you can’t be as bold as you could dream of being. Sensitivity is not weak. Sensitivity is not being a coward. Sensitivity is strong so take bold actions. Do things you never thought you could. Extend yourself. Get out of your comfort zone. Challenge yourself.

Let sensitivity be your bold accomplice. Let it be your guide in unchartered territories. 

It’s not trying to hold you back, it’s helping you experience your life more deeply. It’s your subtle sidekick, the Robin to your Batman, the thing that separates heroes from the power hungry. 

Embrace it as you make bold moves in life. The more bold moves you make, the more you’ll see what an asset your sweet sidekick truly is. 

11. Choose to Love Your Sensitivity. 

Love it. Embrace it. Celebrate it. Treasure it. Nourish it. And you will love, embrace, celebrate, treasure and nourish life a little bit more fully! 

Soooo do you like or resent being sensitive?

To the wonders and joys of your beautifully sensitive heart!



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67 Responses to 11 Powerful Ways to Protect Your Sensitivity

  1. Catherine says:

    oh my…you said it sister! just what I needed to hear…many thanks!

  2. FlowerSpirit says:

    I love your posts Liz, your deep understanding of being sensitive. This resonates in so many ways and I've been smiling and nodding all the way through. A few years ago I lived with a chaotic not-so-sensitive partner and the house was filled with his crazy-making clutter that just jangled my energy field constantly and made it impossible for me to feel peaceful. I had one room that was my sanctuary of calm. He said it was a waste of a room, I told him it kept me sane. He didn't understand. It means so much that you do xx.

    • Hi Jackie! Thank you so much for reading and sharing! I'm so glad it resonated, it felt really good to write it. And I know exactly what you're talking about, been there many times. I'm so glad you found your way out of that and hopefully your home is full of peaceful rooms now. xoxo!!

  3. Wow, it's like you jumped inside my head! Everything you've just said resonates so so deeply with me. Growing up, I always thought there was something wrong with me, and I was always trying to "fix it." But as I've reached my 30's, I've realized that I bring a lot of value the way that I am, and I should honor and strengthen those traits. What I also find interesting, is that people that don't know me well often see me as weak or delicate, but those who know me really well, know that I am very strong when I need to be. I am proud of my strength in tough situations, and just because I am kind and thoughtful doesn't mean I can't be bold and tough when I have to be. I'm very happy with who I am, and I'm still learning to harness my sensitivity even more. Thanks for this amazing post! It really confirmed a lot of feelings for me. 🙂

    • Kimberly I love this! SO much of what you wrote resonated right back with me. It's unfortunate that children aren't taught to honor their sensitivity more, almost every sensitive person I know felt like they needed to be "fixed" at some point. People who don't know me well also sometimes think I'm delicate – but same thing, the ones who do know me well think I'm shockingly strong. And if anything I think being kind and thoughtful should be an indicator of strength, not weakness. In many ways it's actually much easier to be harsh! So glad you're so happy with who you are now!

  4. Kimberly Vardeman says:

    I love this article. Love it. Thank you for empowering sensitive people and reminding us to how to take care of our sensitive selves.

  5. Especially like 7 , Have found it to be very healing to embrace this….focusing on a calm, zen like environment that is free of clutter. When too many things begin to come into my space it is clearing time. Then everything becomes balanced again.

    • Me too Lisa! I really feel like that's become the most important one for me. My home is my sanctuary, it needs to be. Coming home to a peaceful environment makes every issue in life feel easier to tackle. Thanks for reading!

  6. Jennifer Kem says:

    Liz, this article describes me to the tee. Many people don't know how sensitive I am because I "show up" and "tolerate" many things that would imply the contrary. This article is, I bet to a whole lotta people who may mistake their sensitivity for weakness. I'm embracing my radical intuition! 🙂 xoxo.

    • Hey Jen! I feel like a lot of sensitive people have learned to just "show up" and "tolerate". I think it's one of the things that while perhaps affecting us negatively also makes us stronger and capable of handling a lot more than we often give ourselves credit for. So glad you're embracing your radical intuition!! xoxo!

    • Isaac Miller says:

      Being highly sensitive can become your greatest strength if it's embraced and developed. You're able to connect and relate with people on a much deeper level than most can, intuitively.

      You can sense and feel the inner state of those around you, and if you are able to feel other people's emotions and not mistake them as being your own, you have the gift to pretty much see in to another's soul.

      You have to be willing to become very in tune with your emotions and most people are too afraid to. You also have to be willing to let yourself become vulnerable to other people's energies. It can hurt a lot to be sensitive, but if you can feel without identifying with the pain it's a powerful tool for sure.

      • Liz says:

        I agree with every word Isaac, so well put. Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts.

      • Aziz says:

        Thanks Vera and BobBon for always being such suporrteps….let me here from more of you, especially if you haven’t posted a comment ever before! xoxoxo,Deb

  7. Gayle says:

    This just came up recently in my online group, so the timing is perfect and I shared it with them. Thank you!

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  9. I was hooked from number one – Flex your sensitive fierceness! Exactly. I always felt and knew that as a HSP, despite my obvious compassionate and gentle nature there have been many times when I have terrified people with my mental strength. There they were picking on me when WHAM! Needless to say, they were left speechless and afraid and I shocked at my own inner fierceness! I also like number nine because it is true that sensitive people are hung-up on their past so-called failures, when in actual fact, we never failed at all. We simply experienced, learned, grew and moved on just like Non-sensitives do. Good job here. Thank you. 🙂

    • Liz says:

      I love that – “terrified people with my mental strength”!! It can certainly be shocking when it’s so unexpected! Nothing more powerful than the roar of a silent lion 🙂 I’m so glad you’ve embraced your own inner fierceness so fully. Thank you for reading!

  10. Anonymous says:

    This was so great! Thank you for sharing it. I shared this with my Type 2 (soft and subtle) friends on our Type 2 facebook page and it really helped us all. Have you ever heard of Dressing your truth by Carol Tuttle? This program is amazing! Usually the Type 2s are the most sensitive. It has changed my life in SO SO many ways. Thanks for sharing your heart with everyone.

    • Liz says:

      Thanks so much for reading and sharing with your group, I so appreciate it! I’m so glad it was helpful. I have heard of Dressing Your Truth (I know someone who loves it) but I haven’t looked into it personally, will have to check it out!

  11. Alison says:

    I just found your website and feel like I have found a kindred spirit.

    I, too, am a sensitive Cancerian who sees everything through emotion.

    Thank you for this insightful article.

  12. SensitizeME says:

    Most sensitive people are born with this trait. I hear all the time that some men crave to become more sensitive to the feelings of others, especially women. I believe it can be learned and developed. http://www.sensitizeme.com

  13. Ritu Kaushal says:

    I really liked how you've written this. Something I needed to hear today. I think a lot of the articles on sensitives don't always shine a positive light on our trait. Sensitivity feels like a thing to be managed and a disadvantage. But this truly framed it in the correct way. Thank you for the lovely words.

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  15. Heather says:


    Thank you for the beautifully written article. You touched my heart and I am grateful for the words of wisdom. It is so encouraging to hear a positive spin on the reality of being a sensitive human being. Thank you, thank you!



  16. Thanks for this information! It’s like my “condition” no longer has a stigma!

  17. Cara Martin says:

    This article was exactly what I needed to read! Ty so much :-). It's amazing how the angels lead us to what we need to learn. Good luck with the new baby!! 0:-)

  18. Really wonderful. Love the intuition tip!

  19. Angi Abernathie says:

    I am enjoying your posts so much. I finally feel validated as a sensitive person. It's like all if these posts are an explanation of how I have always been but never understood and even felt like it was somehow a fault rather than a strength.

  20. My Journey says:

    I’m very much convinced with your “11 ways to protect every person’s sensitivity.” I, too, am a sensitive type of person (sensitivity to insult most especially) but I’m slowly learning to turn such a weakness into strength. Thank you for sharing this.

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  22. me says:

    Thank you. I needed that. Thank you. I feel less alone.

  23. Kitti Lawton says:

    XLNT post! It reminds me of a self-help book I read about empathic persons. I suspect that most sensitive people are extraordinarily empathic (hence, intuitive) and often suffer from over-stimulation that is difficult to control. Protection is vital, and we need to hear words of encouragement and compassion often, especially as children. Thanks! I often envision a protective bubble around me (teflon!), or I go to "my happy place" when I'm feeling overwhelmed, with mean-spirited people, in most crowds or in a chaotic situation. Leaving the area and taking a nice, peaceful walk helps too.

  24. Linda Sandåker says:

    Thank you.,

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  26. Sandra Heasman says:

    Thank you for sharing :). I spent a long time resenting my sesitivity as my "me pleasing" versus "people pleasing" was severely out of balance. I now love and embrace my sensitivity and equilibrium. Love, light and gratitude.

  27. Lisa says:

    Thank you, thank you for such a timely article! Again and again you struck a chord with me. I identified with every single one of you suggestions. It is a hard thing to be a sensitive soul in a toughened world. The thing that has been said to me again and again is, “just get over it.” I need to go through it. Thirty one years here and I’m still trying to figure out who I am and what I have to offer!

  28. Conor says:

    …and having read this, non-sensitives from all corners wish for high-sensitivity!

  29. Lacey Dawson says:

    Amazing amazing amazing. Someone finally validating how great it is and a gift to be sensitive after a life time of your too sensitive!!!

  30. antonia says:

    Nourish your sensitivity. Thank you so much for your post. This resonates deeply with me. I am going through a lot of changes right now (finally). All my life I have been suppressing my entire being (emotions, expression, will, desires, personality) because I was afraid that I would end up alone again, as I often was during childhood, hence my focus was always on pleasing others and avoiding conflict even if this implies that I was going against myself. But you know, you swallow that pill and go with it, you just accept that you are not living life to the fullest. You accept that sad ‘reality’ until you realise that the only reason you came here for, was to live up to your potential, which is vast, limitless! Finally you also accept that you yourself were making life a lot harder than it actually is. Me for example, I finally realised that my sensitiveness is not the root of my misery. The way I treat it is the root of my misery or paradise. (You can perceive so many beautiful things with that sensitivity :)) I used to hate it, see it as a weakness and be ashamed about it because I always wanted to be the person that’s “got it all together” and is strong. But being sensitive and strong actually goes hand in hand! You described it very well in your post. For myself, or at least for now, I see my strength in the fact that I finally accepted that I am sensitive. I think that is my biggest relief so far. I stopped fighting the “weakness” and started nourishing it.
    It’s so funny I just had this shift the moment I reached your blog. Until yesterday I was still denying it if someone would tell me I am sensitive. My exterior still has to live up to my interior, which is definitely strong (a few bad habits are installed though ;)), but I will get there :). (I blush very easily in all kinds of situations. That’s a hard nut for me to crack in terms of acceptance, but I will get there as well) If I could describe to you how I feel other than thankful I guess the image that matches it the most is a lot of weight being lifted from my shoulders. I feel like I can finally look people in the eyes, relaxed (no anxiety!!!) and tell them that yes I am sensitive and I am okay with it. Oh yes, I even like it 🙂
    Thank you sister <3 A

  31. Jeanie says:

    I found your article when I was searching for ways for my highly sensitive 16 yr. old daughter to protect herself from absorbing everyone’s emotional state, at least the negative ones. I thank you for all of the valuable information and suggestions. I not only found them to be useful tools to relay to my daughter, it made me realize that I was a highly sensitive person, as well. I say ‘was’ because I have learned to toughen myself up over the years as a mode of survival, well, it seems… until something like a death of a close friend or family member, then all my efforts thus far come unraveling and I am no good. So maybe, with this enlightenment, I can even honor and embrace my sensitivity, and allow it to enrich my life, along with my daughter and we can both be more inline with our true selves. Thank you. 🙂

  32. Sounds like I wrote this articel myself! Thanks for the validation.

  33. Donna Tenney says:

    Love this. I'm always being told that I'm too sensitive. What's so wrong with being sensitive, I always thought and asked with never finding an answer. Then being harsh on myself because I was being "too sensitive" (as people would tell me. Then finally just here recently I realized that after everything I've been through in life that I have to right to be sensitive or "too sensitive." Its far better to show how much you care about people and show your true feelings than hide behind walls or masks because people can't handle your sensitivity. I always felt like I needed to apologize for being "too sensitive and now, especially after reading your wonderful article here, I no longer feel like I have to apologize for being sensitive-that it is actually good to be sensitive because it shows people how much you truly care and truly are compassionate, understanding, loving etc.-(all great qualities to have. Thanks for writing this and I'm so glad I found this through a link on pinterest.com. Will have to check out and read more of your articles now.

  34. jane says:

    Thanks for this eye-opening article. It gave me lots of “that’s exactly how I feel-moments”…

  35. gregory says:

    I can relate much! is this similar to empath? I’m easily get overwhelmed by the crowd and in any public places! but I should ignore them!

  36. As an answer to your question: I have both loved and hated my sensitivity, but this article your wrote has definitely swayed my decision today. I always think I am so different from everyone, taking things (as they say) "too personally", or being "too sensitive" to situations and actions. I can't help but believe them, as noone else seems to think the quite brash and mean things that are sometimes said or done require any kind of confrontation or "calling out". I'm mostly left to feel kind of…nuts, honestly.

    I think that I need to start looking at my high level of sensitivity like you said – more of a gift and a positive thing than such a detriment. I'm physically tired of feeling terrible for just being ME, and literally crave a new perspective. Thank you for being strong enough to write this…I know it is going to help me more than you know.

  37. I can't tell you just how much I appreciate this article. Amazingly spot on. THANK YOU! <3

  38. Kristen says:

    Having lived most of my 50 years not knowing what being an HSP was, I often felt so alone, but unaware why I was so different. I just had to tell you that I love what you wrote, and thank you.

  39. Just spent a full-on week of celebrating birthdays. Today I feel as thought I've been hit by a bus. Thank you for your website and helpful information. Today I'll rest.

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  41. Daniela says:

    Hi Liz, I know this post is old. But I just wanted to let you know that I really needed this today, I woke up feeling so sad with certain things that are around me at the moment.I have always known that I am sensitive, and although we go through hard difficult times, your heart may become stronger and you as a person, but is also sensible, and I never loose that sensitivity. I was not sure if being this sensible was something bad, cause you just feel way too much. But relating to this what you wrote… I have no doubt now that I love being sensible. Greeting and big hugs out there to all the sensible hearts 🙂

  42. Mari Lila says:

    This is the single most amazing and eye opening article i have ever read! It is like reading about myself in words that actually make sense to me and answer so many questions about how come i am the way i am. I just got myself out of a two and a half year relationship with a man that has narcissistic personality dissorder that i just realized was the case. He exploited my sensitivity and kindness and patience. I wish i could have not gotten into a relationship like that but these people have such high energy at first and are such charmers its hard to even know. He also saw my sensitivity and belittled me often and made me resent this part of myself..I always found myself wanting to be strong and fearless.. This article puts so much into perspective for me. I have always been spontaneous and taking risks at times trying to embrace more of the good energy in life i tend to feel so much and this is way more than less sensitive people will ever be able to experience! Its so good to feel there are people out there like you who feel the same way! Ps. The room tidyness thing is like No1! I thought it was just ocd but i do 200% need my environment to be peaceful in order to think things clear! Thank you so so much! Lila

  43. Mari Lila says:

    This is the single most amazing and eye opening article i have ever read! It is like reading about myself in words that actually make sense to me and answer so many questions about how come i am the way i am. I just got myself out of a two and a half year relationship with a man that has narcissistic personality dissorder that i just realized was the case. He exploited my sensitivity and kindness and patience. I wish i could have not gotten into a relationship like that but these people have such high energy at first and are such charmers its hard to even know. He also saw my sensitivity and belittled me often and made me resent this part of myself..I always found myself wanting to be strong and fearless.. This article puts so much into perspective for me. I have always been spontaneous and taking risks at times trying to embrace more of the good energy in life i tend to feel so much and this is way more than less sensitive people will ever be able to experience! Its so good to feel there are people out there like you who feel the same way! Ps. The room tidyness thing is like No1! I thought it was just ocd but i do 200% need my environment to be peaceful in order to think things clear! Thank you so so much! Lila

  44. Thank you so much for your article. I finally understand why I think and act like I do. I have been called too sensitive all of my life. I am taking my life back and stepping out with courage to change what needs to be changed. This is a life changing article. Thank you, again.

  45. I got so much out of this, thank you.

  46. Liz says:

    Wow, thank you very much for this. This is exactly what I was needing right now, it resonates exactly with what I am and how I feel. Even our names match!

  47. Bianca says:

    I read only the article, but I will read the comments as well later. I was especially struck by the frase ‘mental space’. Because this is my problem. I always thought I have a calm and strong personality, which makes other people feel very good to be with me. (fun, entertaining, good stories, relaxing, never dull, I make profound friendships quite easily) But then they want more. I could never find words, but I feel like they invade my mental space. I feel they start to lean on me, brag, try to impress me, stare at me, watch where I look, comment every little move I make. They even start to sigh out loud, whistle and hum out loud, just to get my attention or because they feel there is a silence that they need to fill. But this silence I need!

    Then I can’t think straight anymore, only about how they watch me. My head fills up, more and more the pressure is unbearable, I get fysical complaints (shoulder muscle ache) and I need to retreat, physically, and find a place to be alone and to recharge.

    With my best friend I had to write an email to break up the (4 year long, very intense and beautiful) friendship. That’s so stupid, but I saw no other way out, because the hints I gave her didn’t get the message across (the last year she starting humming continuously and began to seek negative attention by criticising me). On the internet I read I should just ‘tell them’ (so says my mom), but this just makes it worse because it makes them feel more insecure and pay more attention to me. It’s really crazy that really none of them could stop doing this, even if I ask them very precisely. They really just don’t understand what I mean and what is going on with me.

    Sometimes it helps when I say: ‘just leave me alone when I’m in this state’. Because that way it’s like I have a problem and so it’s not their fault. But it’s only a way to postpone the solution. In the end I always breakdown, retreat. I feel so bad because they are left with ‘what did I do?’. And really, what did they do? If they would just stop watching me, staring at me, smiling at me, paying attention to me. I don’t see a way out. II will have to stay even more alone, as I’m also single. It’s not fair, that I feel so confident and good in nature, but the insecurities of others make me feel so alone.
    Sorry for this long comment but writing this down makes me feel a little better.

  48. Mary Fran says:

    Thank you for this…I have been having a difficult time lately and have been absorbing so much negativity it is sending me into a depression. I have always been told I am “too sensitive”…I can still hear my mom, dad and my sister saying it..especially when they couldn’t understand why I was upset about something that had happened to me. My mother, of all of them, did understand the most…but I think she didn’t know how to make me nurture it as well as I should have.
    So I became “tough” on the outside….take no shit tough. My real self was introverted…but I put on a good show and can be social when I have to. People are often surprised when I tell them this because I can talk to anyone…usually they end up telling me everything about themselves almost instantly.
    It took until my 40’s that I started to appreciate my sensitive strength. I am strong, I am intuitive and it helps me be the best person I can be. I can let things go more easily…I don’t try to hide behind that tough exterior as often.
    I do many of the things you listed…and have just started taking better care of my health and eating/exercise habits. I am finally starting to put myself first. I have also let go of most of my past “issues”…I learned things, I lost people, I gave too much, but I also gained so much strength and realize God protected me when I couldn’t protect myself.
    I, too, have finally met my “safe person”. My husband is easy going and calm and we love to be home together. Many think we are boring…but we know we are where WE need to be. Thank you again for this…I was exactly what I needed to read today.

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