Everything you desire, the Universe wants to provide to you.
You just need to be open to receiving it.
See opportunities in disguised encounters,
see possibilities in unexpected happenings.
Receive and you will achieve.
I was recently made aware of how I have been actively blocking abundance from my life. In my first GL newsletter I mentioned that I was just finishing a 6 month coaching group. During a meeting in Seattle with that group, my coach made a very insightful observation on my ability, or inability, to receive. Her observation has forever changed how I approach life and you may be able to relate…
My coach tried to give me a compliment. She said I’m a gifted writer. I responded that there are much better writers, I just enjoy it. She tried again, “No Liz, it’s really your strength, you communicate so well through writing”. My response went something like, “well, I’m no Shakespeare…”
She had enough. “I’m going to stop you right there. You have a problem with receiving. And if you’re unable to receive a compliment, you’re likely not open to receiving in any area of life.”
Someone chimed in, “Yeah Liz, when I told you your hair was pretty yesterday, you quickly said how awful it is.”
Okay, got it, no need to belabor the point. I have a problem…
It’s true, compliment my hair and I have an arsenal of insults prepared for myself. “No, it’s so thick and curly, very hard to manage.” “No, it can get so frizzy, it’s such a pain.” “Oh, it takes so long to do in the morning, such a hassle.” I’ve got self-depricating bullets to rifle off in response to just about every verbal compliment aimed at me.
I know I’m not the only one out there with this bad habit and women seem particularly prone to it.
Why do we disparage ourselves so? How did humility get so confused with insult?
And in refusing to receive compliments and other forms of abundance, apparently we’re not only robbing ourselves of what’s being offered to us, but we’re robbing the giver as well. As if to say, “thank you for the verbal gift you just sound waved to my conscious, but now please take that thing back, I’ve no need for it.”
So I started to think about all the other ways I’ve habitually blocked abundance from entering my life. Refusing gifts, doing work for free, turning down money, not going for things I want, focusing on the negative instead to the positive. Eyes low. Posture small. Voice soft.
And so my coach instructed me to simply say “thank you” the next time someone gives me a compliment. And to then thank myself for allowing myself to receive that compliment.
Practice receiving abundance in one area, and you’ll learn to be more open to it in all areas.
Old habits die hard… This little habit of mine is so ingrained in my subconscious that I’m constantly slipping. Compliment me online, and I can easily write back thank you. Compliment me in person, and my verbal assault habits kick in. But with awareness, practice, time and effort, I’ve made big progress.
Within a week of returning home from that trip to Seattle, I received an email from my tour guides in Tanzania. They were inviting me on an all expense paid trip to Tanzania so I could experience the country I’ve been selling through my travel agency first hand. Fancy hotels, all meals, private guide, on safari all week. ABUNDANCE.
Their last sentence: “We await your positive response.”
My first abundance blocking instinct: “No, I could never. That’s way too generous. I don’t deserve that. I really appreciate it but I haven’t earned that yet.” “Thanks, but no.”
Stop – Awareness. Practice. Effort.
My response: “I say YES.”
Did you hear that Universe?
We serve no one and nothing by slamming the door on abundance. Welcome abundance and you will have more to share with others, you will have more to give.
And so on Thursday I’m leaving for the trip of a lifetime. My husband is joining me and we parlayed our flights to Africa into an extended layover in Paris using points to cover 4 free nights at a Starwood hotel.
New Years even in Paris. Abundance.
And when guilt creeps in, that maybe I don’t deserve this trip, it’s too indulgent, it’s bad timing, etc., I stop myself and remind myself to always welcome abundance into my life.
How have you been blocking abundance? Are you ready to stop this bad habit? I hope so. Let me know if you need any help.
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